There is so much more to foreplay than just a few kisses and light stroking here and there. You should know by now, or I sure hope you do, that foreplay is what warms you both up and gets you all tingly inside.

Men

We know you’d rather dig right into it but with this kind of attitude, it will take us much longer to actually get in the mood and get our juices flowing. So for more heat between the sheets, work your partner up with passion and pay attention to how she reacts to every move, notice what really gets her excited. Here are some tips:

• Start with a seductive foot massage. Use some oil and apply different kinds of pressure by squeezing the heels, rubbing the arch of her foot, and lightly caressing the ankles. Her moans and physical reactions will be your cues to apply the right kind of pressure to the right spot.
• Tease, tease, tease. Light strokes – that’s your key word ­— from her ankles up to her inner thighs, the small of her back all the way up to the back of her neck using your fingers and lips, it works like magic.
• Stand behind her and let her feel your body close, not too close so you’d leave her wanting more, but close enough that she feels you breathing lightly into her neck and ears (key word: lightly).  Run your hands softly on her neck, neckline and breasts while kissing her neck and ears.
• Don’t start with the kissing too soon, keep her wanting it and watch how she tries to reach for your lips but keep teasing her by pulling away seductively every time your lips touch. Brush your lips softly on to hers a few times and half way into the rest of your moves, surprise her with a heated up kiss when she least expects it.

Women

Just because men like it rough and don’t seem to care much about foreplay, they actually love the teasing and some ‘playing hard to get’ moves in bed. Try this:

• Suck on an ice cube until it’s a bit melted, start kissing him and pass the ice cube back and forth in your mouths as you both kiss, when it’s completely melted, move the cold tip of your tongue all over his chest down to his lower abdomen, and waistline.  
• Before you start with the oral sex, get your lips very cold by wrapping them around an ice cube for a good few seconds then watch what the temperature contrast of your cold lips and warm mouth will do to your man.
• Take control, men find it sexy, decide on a game and set the rules — they like the challenge: the two of you do anything you want to each other but without using hands. Now get creative.
• Blindfold him and drive him wild with nothing left for him but sensations and his own imagination of what you might be doing that is making him that aroused. Alternate between using your hands, lips and tongue all over his body. Stop abruptly and keep him wondering what your next move will be.